My beautiful, funny, smiling little Miles is six months old. He is fantastic. Everything a six-month-old should be. He's rolling all over the place, sitting without support, laughing at his older brother (he laughs at everything, really.) He's finally started eating solids. Like opening his mouth for them and everything. But, he's also stopped sleeping.
Oscar did the same exact thing at the same exact time. What is it with my children and their refusal to sleep after six months of age? He wakes almost every hour, hour and a half, two hours if I'm lucky. He will not go back to sleep with simple rocking. He must get into the big bed. He must NURSE.
And, he's not even hungry. He's only suckling - not really eating. Breastfeeding moms know what I mean. There is a huge difference between a baby that's nursing to eat and a baby that's nursing for comfort. It feels different. It is different.
It's my own fault. I nurse my babies to sleep. I know it's the WRONG WAY because they don't learn to self soothe. And this is why we've ended up here, with a baby who goes to be at 7:30pm, and wakes at 9pm, 11pm, 12:30am, 1:30am, 2:20am, 4:00am, 5:30am. And I'm not exaggerating. That was our night last night.
He wakes up and he just screams and cries and kicks his legs. And if we don't go to him RIGHT AWAY he just gets angrier and angrier. We bring him to the bed and he's asleep almost instantly. I talked to the pediatrician about it on Friday. "You might want to consider letting him cry." I already knew it was time, but I've been trying not to face it.
With Oscar, this pattern continued until he was nine months old. NINE MONTHS OLD. That's when we finally decided to cry-it-out. Well, I don't have three more months in me this time. Cry-it-out starts tonight.
So, when Miles wakes at 9pm, we will let him rage until he falls back asleep. It will be hard, but it needs to be done. I am exhausted. The all night breast feeding and repeated wakings are killing me. The first night with Oscar took just under 30 minutes of crying and it was incredibly difficult. But he slept all night long. The second and third nights he cried less and less. The fourth night, he didn't wake at all. He started napping better too. I hope things with Miles go as smoothly.
I know CIO is not for everyone. I respect the fact that different methods of sleep training (or no sleep training even) work for different people. CIO works for us, or at least it has worked in the past, so we are going for it again. What I'm trying to say, is keep your mean spirited comments to yourself. I don't need them. I believe CIO works, but that doesn't mean it's easy or I like hearing my kid cry. It just means we need some goddamn sleep around here and if this is the only way we can get it, then that's what we're gonna do.