Let me just start by saying SIGH.
The nappage is not going so well around these parts. Miles is sort of settling into a routine (two times a day; 1-2 hours each nap), but not terribly regular. Sometimes it will be just one nap, or the naps will only be 30 minutes long. It's tough, but I can deal with that. He's an infant; he will likely develop a regular pattern by the end of his ninth month (next month, GAH!). It'll be fine.
Oscar is a completely different story. Oh, Oscar. I'm looking at him right now, passed out on the couch in the living room from sheer exhaustion. He hasn't napped for four days. Poor guy.
Before anyone tries to tell me maybe he's through napping, please see above. The child needs to nap. He's just a smidgen over two. Prior to the last month or so, he went down like a rock at 11AM for three hours. THREE HOURS.
Until he was about 15 months, Oscar took two naps a day, one from 9-11:30/ and one from 2-4. There was some serious nappage going on around here. They were hard fought at first, but once he hit around nine months, he went down like a dream.
Then, he dropped his afternoon nap. My understanding is that most kids drop their morning nap first, but not Oscar. I tried to move his one nap later in the day, but he wouldn't have it.
So, since about 16 months, he's been sleeping 11-2 pretty much every single day. A great napper. A championship napper.
Until about a month ago. I'm not sure what happened. He just decided NO. When I put him down, he rages. I mean, screams his flipping guts out. Like shrieking and sobbing and flailing around and throwing his bunny and blankie from the crib and howling. "MOMMA HOLD YOU! I ALL DONE MOMMA! I ALL DONE NAP! I FINISHED! BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA! IEEEEEEEEEEEEEE! WAAAAAAAAAA! OPEN DOOR! I NEED DOOR OPEN! I NEED DOWNSTAIRS! MOMMY! MOMMY!"
For an hour. And then I go and get him and we continue about our day. At first I though he was saying he's finished with his current nap. Now I'm beginning to think he's indicating that he's through with the entire actuality of napping. Can that be?
And he's just sucky after no nap. He often refuses dinner, tantrums at bath time, shoves his brother, tries to bite me when I intervene. He's like a completely different kid. I want my sweet, funny boy back.
About every third or fourth day, he'll nap out of sheer exhaustion (like today.)
I am at a loss, internets, a total loss. I've tried everything. Moving nap time later; moving bed time later; moving bed time earlier; lunch before nap; lunch after nap; reading before nap; CIO for an hour; just letting him not nap; letting him fall asleep in front of the TV; laying down with him; adjusting the temperature in his room up and down. None of it is working.
So I'm calling on you, oh wise ones. What do you do to get your toddlers to nap? I'm out of solutions and I'm running out of patience. Oh, wait, I AM out of patience. Suggestions needed. Please. Help. Me.