Is she lucky that her husband recognized she was overwhelmed and expressed his desire to help more? Yes, I think she is. What bothered me though is that several of the commenter's on the post said she was lucky to have a husband that helped out at all - that cooked dinner and cleaned up and fed that baby - and I could not disagree more.
Nelson does not "help" with the boys. He is my partner is raising them. That means that together we feed them and bathe them and dress them and taken them on outings and play with them. Sometimes he does those things alone; sometimes I do. But it's not luck. It's called parenting and it's his job too. I don't feel lucky that he actively parents our children. It's what a father should do and how a father should behave.
And, while I do the bulk of the cooking, cleaning, shopping, and laundry around here, Nelson participates on those fronts as well. He takes out the garbage, picks up toys, puts away laundry; he does these things without my asking (well, usually) and he does more if I ask.
Again, I don't feel lucky because my husband helps with household chores. It's that status quo around here and I think it should be the status quo everywhere. Yes, I'm home full-time and yes, I still expect him to work around the house. Sure, he's tired after his day at work, but you know what? SO AM I. Nelson will be the first person to tell you that my job is harder than his job. Chasing children and changing diapers and wiping noses and breaking up fights and kissing boo-boos is HARD WORK. It ain't all blogging and bonbons.
I guess what bothers me is that women with participatory partners are seen as "lucky." I just think that's bullshit. I think it is okay for women to expect their husbands (or wives or partners or whatever) to be part of raising children and taking care of the home. I think women should expect it, and women who don't expect it are letting themselves down and not putting enough faith in their partner's ability to contribute to the household and child rearing.
So, no, I do not feel lucky that my husband is and active partner is raising our children and working around the house.
Yes, I feel lucky to have Nelson, but for other reasons. I feel lucky that he is caring and loving and intuitive and that he respects me and accepts me for who I am. I feel lucky that he's handy and can repair most things that break around the house. I feel lucky that he has such a good job and does it so well and is able to provide financially for our family. I feel lucky that even when he is uncertain he still tries to do the right thing.
But the fact that he's an active parent who contributes to our household? I wouldn't have it any other way, and neither would Nelson. I mean, no he doesn't enjoy doing chores (who does?), but he does enjoy parenting our children.
And that is not luck on my part; that's good taste in men.